A&E's Resident Sex Expert CONTINUED

disease (STI) not only in the United States but perhaps the world.  It has well over sixty strains, which can express themselves through lesions on the cervix or through warts on the vulva of a woman. It’s estimated that over 75% of the population carries at least one strain in their bodies. Many women go for years with no symptoms and men are much less likely to be symptomatic. It can be particularly difficult to diagnose men as they can pass it to their partners through virtually microscopic warts on their penis. It’s spread through skin to skin contact and therefore if the affected areas are outside of the range of a condom like the base or top of the penis or the outer lips of the vulva technically it can "rub off" on your partner.

Some people do have a natural resistance to some strains and not to others. The problem is that women have a much higher chance of developing cervical cancer from several strains of the virus. Men obviously don’t run this risk. Usually, when women develop HPV on the cervix the only way to tell is through a pap smear. But even so I’ve seen women who probably contracted the virus years prior and for one reason or another (either the pap didn’t detect it or the virus wasn’t active on the cervix) they had no idea. It’s almost impossible for most people to pin point when and whom they picked it up from. Luckily, if caught early these cervical malignancies caused by HPV are highly treatable through a variety of procedures and topical ointments. But depending on the strain you have (new testing has finally been developed to tell us this), 80% of the time the malignancy cures itself. Which means you won’t have cancer but because HPV is a virus you will always have HPV. The virus is usually monitored through more frequent pap smears to make sure it’s reversing itself. This is a really good reason to get yourself in those stirrups every year or so. 

So, what to do when it comes to having to tell your partner? Like any diagnosis of an STI you guys need to have a talk and you especially will need to educate him about the virus and its transmission. I’ve seen many couples get into the blame game about who got it from whom and there really seems no point to the route of discussion. Hopefully, both of you would be honest enough to discuss any sexual activity outside of your relationship in a mature manner. The important part is how to manage the relationship and this new variable that has been introduced to it. Because the risk to men is low many long term couples just assume the risk of HPV and decide to engage in unprotected sex when the female partner has already been diagnosed. However, if you’re a guy out there reading this column and either you’ve been diagnosed or a previous partner has been you should offer that information to any new partner. Although, cervical malignancies are treatable you are playing with someone else’s life and editing out important information they should have before you have sex is a no-no. Regardless, condoms are not fool proof in this instance, and the general rule is to assume that everyone has some form of this virus (or any STI for that matter) when you have sex with them. It’s a lot sexier to practice safer sex all of the time than having to worry about those microscopic lesions on your partner’s penis.

Sincerely,
Dr. Kat

May: The Perfect Month For Squirt Showers! CONTINUED

experiments solo, so you can take your time experimenting. Beforehand, make sure you are well hydrated, lay down a towel, and use the restroom - the urge to squirt can feel somewhat like the urge to urinate, and at the precipice you don’t want to feel the need to hold yourself back.

Grab your favorite lube, lie back, and insert your fingers or a toy to start the magic. You’ll want to focus on putting pressure and sensation right against the front wall of your vagina, just as you would to trigger a G-Spot orgasm. Experts suggest a long, slow buildup, and that many women find that using a lot of pressure is key to a great squirting release. Glass dildos are a special favorite because their firm surface really stimulates. Stay relaxed and follow your arousal all the way to an incredible peak.

If your first exploratory session doesn’t produce squirting results, you may want to adjust your technique, try new angles or toys, vary speeds, and ask your lover to get in on the experiment.

But it is important to note that not every woman will be able to squirt. Indeed science has emerged to show that Skene’s glands are highly variable from woman to woman – so some may squirt a lot, some infrequently, and some not at all. Keep the focus on relaxation and pleasure, and you’re guaranteed a good time regardless.

Find the gear you need including glass dildos, G-Spot toys, and more for your squirt journey at Adam & Eve!.

Masturbation Month, Men's Health & Penis Pumps! CONTINUED

The purpose of this article is to introduce you to penis pumps, as part of your masturbation or foreplay with a partner, or both.

Guys, adding a pump to your self-pleasuring tool kit (next to that nifty prostate pleaser) can provide exciting new stimulation and lessons in how an erection works. It could be fun to use with your partner, too!

Before we start a-pumping, let's review why masturbation is good for you:

1. Masturbation relieves stress.
2. Masturbation encourages self-discovery, so you can learn what you like sexually.
3. You gain sexual independence.
4. There's less pressure on your partner to be sexually available.
5. Other sexual activity becomes more enjoyable.
6. And get this –– abstaining from sexual stimulation like masturbation can make resuming sex more challenging.

In other words, "Use it or lose it!" And…

7. Masturbation boosts your immune system by releasing cortisol.
8. It will elevate your testosterone. Grow more muscle, get that hipster beard you've always wanted and deepen your voice with just a few strokes, fellows.

Penis Pumps: News You Can Use?

You may have read articles on the internet or heard from comedian Samantha Bee that Medicare has spent $172 million over a six year period for penis pumps. They were used to treat erectile dysfunction for older men at $360 a pop. Our penis pumps here at Adam & Eve cost way less than that! And we steer clear of political controversy at the same time.

What Does A Penis Pump Do, Anyway?

Whether you're enhancing your erection in your golden years, or curious about how much bigger you can get your wood to grow, all penis pumps work on the same basic principle. The pump is a cylinder that sucks out air, creating a vacuum that draws extra blood into the penis, like a garden hose filling with water. This makes it bigger and erect almost immediately, even if you don't have a single sexy thought in your head (might be a good time to insert your favorite fantasy here). Add a cock ring and depending on your current sexual health, you'll either have a harder than average erection (like a diving board in some cases) or a pretty darn good one (as in "why didn't I think of this before?").

No pills. No medication. No surgery.

Penis Pump Do's And Don'ts

Okay, so you've acquired a penis pump from a reputable adult products retailer since 1971 like Adam & Eve. Now what? Here's some penis pump pointers on how to get the most pleasure and do it safely.

• Apply a water-based lube to the rubber or latex or silicone ring at the base of the pump. This creates an air tight seal and protects your Willie from chafing.
• Keep a towel handy for controlling that lube. It tends to get on things.
• Insert penis into pump, begin pumping - slowly. The base of the pump should be flush with your body as you watch your erection grow. IF you experience ANY discomfort, STOP immediately and remove penis from pump.
• Pump slowly until your penis is firm and erect. Take it easy and enjoy the sensations. (If there is unusual coloring, distress or discomfort, stop and consult your primary care physician.)
• Do not pump for more than 20 minutes at a time. Most experts say wait an hour between sessions, others say don't pump more than once a day.
• If you wear a penis ring before pumping, you'll remain erect after you stop pumping.

We make no claims that using a penis pump will give you a permanently larger penis. It should, in most cases, give you a temporary increase in length and girth. Your Woodrow is also going to feel larger. Now your enlarged erection can be enjoyed during masturbation or with a partner. Now where's that prostate stimulator again?

PS: Pumps For Women?

That's a question that may have crossed your mind. Guess what? The answer is a resounding YES! There are pumps for breasts, nipples (not to be confused with breast pumps for nursing MILFs), pumps for the clitoris and vagina. Each pump creates a vacuum to encourage blood flow to that selected region. Her (and his) nipples become larger and more sensitive, for example, so can the clitoris.

If you're a couple thinking about pumping together, start here. Happy Official Masturbation Month!